Becoming a single parent may not be easy. Whether it was decision you made or just a situation you happened to find yourself in, it can prove to be both rewarding but really hard work. 

Having a baby changes your relationship with everyone from your own parents to your friends. Old friends may not understand the responsibility you now have and expect you to still have the same time and energy for your friendships as you did before becoming a parent. Your parents may want to help but end up taking over while other parents may not help enough and take a back seat.  Explaining how you feel can really help and this will enable them to understand that you value them and still need them in your life, maybe more now than ever before.

• Explain to your friends and relatives about the sort of help you would like. It will make them feel wanted and give you some much needed help. If you are struggling to cope with sleep deprivation then ask some-one you trust for some help. Let them look after the baby while you catch up on your sleep.

• You may be struggling with your own feelings if you didn’t plan on becoming a single parent, it sounds cliché but it does help to talk. Ask your health visitor if there are any groups just for lone parents.

• Ask a relative you trust to babysit so you can still meet up with your friends even if it is just for a coffee. This will also enable you to enjoy some time away from your baby which as a single parent is very important.

• Try to meet other single parents who will understand more than anyone on what you are experiencing and maybe if you form a good bond you can help each other out. Having some-one to rely on is important.

• Join lots of mother and baby groups so you can get out and about and meet other parents.

• It will be difficult at times, seeing families all out having fun. Don’t dwell on the fact that you are on your own, make the most of the other relationships you have.

Remember it will get easier, even if the first few months seem tough. As you child gets older you will suddenly find yourself with more ‘me’ time and more energy to enjoy the fun times!