Wonderful partner, gorgeous baby and a fantastic sex life may seem like the ideal dream but is it realistic?  

Sleepless nights and your partner’s body insecurities after child birth may not be the best recipe for a fantastic sex life. If you are both content with sex not being on the agenda for a while then that’s fine but if it’s causing frustration within your relationship then it’s important to try to improve it. 

• Simply enjoy each other’s bodies by indulging her in a massage with no expectations of sex. She may be feeling unhappy with her post baby shape, give her some encouragement that you love her and that you still find her attractive.

• Why not enjoy giving each other pleasure without penetration until she feels ready. She may be worried about getting pregnant again so get your contraception sorted.

• Your partner may still be sore after childbirth. Ask her if she is concerned that penetration will hurt. Buy some fun lubrication and take it slowly. Sex should be something you both enjoy and not something she thinks about as a chore.

• If the baby is asleep in their cot right next to your bed it may not be the ideal situation to get in the mood for some passion. Why not explore other areas of the house so you can both relax?

It’s not always easy to talk about and you can sometimes wonder if you are alone in your lack of sex life. Most new parents will experience some difficulties at the start but if you talk about how you are both feeling it will make it easier.